MY THOUGHTS ON HAVING LONG HAIR... AND WHY IT'S NOT A BIG DEAL

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8.23.2017
Having long hair as an aesthetic choice was never an actual conscious choice I had made. Basically, one day I woke up, and it seemed as if my hair had grown out overnight.



As a young girl, I remember craving long hair. I wanted pretty, beautiful long hair that girl's at my school had. Yes, I was definitely the girl in the hairdresser's chair who would cry if my hair didn't get cut the exact way I wanted it to be. 


For the longest time, my hair was always somewhere between just at my shoulder's, or perhaps 2in past it- a length I've always considered to be mid-length. It seemed like it would take forever to grow out! And then, suddenly, it seemed to grow out super fast when I reached around the age of 19. I was excited!

However....


I wasn't prepared for the upkeep that came with long hair! I would get the worst tangles in my hair, not to mention my hair would always wrap around my neck or my arms when I was sleeping (or dancing, or moving a lot). Products upon products were needed to maintain shine and smooth hair. I broke hairbrushes ala Princess Diaries with the thickness and length of my hair.


I think the worst part, though, was that my hair became too much of my identity.


Sure, it was beautiful, but I didn't want that to be the only talking point people felt like they had with me. I'm a very vain person, this is true, I love makeup and attaining a certain aesthetic, and even though that is something I enjoy for me, I never wanted it to be the only thing people cared about. 

Don't get me wrong- I'm beyond grateful that my hair can grow. Some people naturally don't have that and I know it pains them. The grass is always greener on the other side- curly hair wants to be straight, and straight wants to be curly. Thick wants to be thinner, and thinner wants to be thicker. Some people want silkier hair and other's wish their hair wasn't so fine.

But at the end of the day, it really is just hair. 

If it's not important for a religious and cultural aspect, and it's merely just a matter of preference and looks, I've found that I'm less willing to be uptight about it. 

I do, again, have the luxury of fast growing hair- check out this grow-out from only 2 months.


When I was bleaching my hair, I'm not even joking, I'd begin to see an alarming rate of grow-out even after 2 weeks of having just bleached my roots. 


So with my hair growing so fast, I do have the luxury of making big changes like cutting off almost 20in of hair in one go. It just makes me a little upset when people mourn the fact that I got rid of something that is technically dead. It's my hair after all.... 


One thing social media does to us, is put us in the spotlight more than ever. I ask for input on certain things, such as what kind of makeup to do, hence the ocean themed makeup you see in this picture. However, when someone does decide to make a fairly big change, such as cutting their hair or getting a tattoo- don't be the person who hangs over them like a cloud, whining about what should have been or could have been.

I am guilty of this too- thinking that my opinion is more important than the person's feelings on things that actually belong to them (hair, skin, etc).

Let's stop that!

To put it simply, long hair or short- you are you and if you decide to make a change, it's not a big deal. Cut or dye your hair! It'll grow back. 

And if you're someone who knows a person with long hair.... And they decide to cut it.... Don't be That Personwho, despite your "best intentions" makes that person's entire identity about their hair vs their actual feelings and uhm, them. Cause they're a person. So treat them like it.

Has anyone ever unwittingly made you feel bad that you changed something about your appearance? How did you deal with it?